Your Mom Is Nuts!

Let me start by saying, I am a very patient person. I am understanding, and I normally get along with people very easily once I get to know them. There is one exception to the rule, my future mother-in-law.

We spent the holiday with his family. It was nice for the most part. But, I had a strange feeling. His mother followed me around the whole time...watching me...waiting for me to make one false move. This lady is nuts. She has had all of her sons to herself all this time, but now that he is getting married, she can't take it. She has basically planned my whole wedding, and we haven't even set a date. So we opted to get married on an island. We haven't chosen the place yet, we just know it will not be at home. She is going to lose it when she finds out after the fact...

At first I thought I was being paranoid. but my man saw it too. When I fixed my plate she made a comment about how I should be careful what I ate because I had to be sure I would look nice in my wedding dress. My man and I work out 3 days a week. What in the world was she talking about? When I walked around and mingled, she had to in on every conversation. She introduced me to all of her friends. It was really creepy. My Boo had been watching her the whole day as well. He said, "I hate to say this, but I think my mother is jealous of you." I had been thinking that already, but I didn't say anything about it. You know how men are when it comes to their mothers...

It's weird. It's like she's trying to make me into this perfect daughter-in-law when in fact, I'm not perfect. She is very snobbish. She brags about her sons all the time. Now that I am getting into the family, I guess she feels the need to fix me up so that I'll fit into her perfect family...It's not going to happen. I will never be what she wants me to be, and I won't try. I am who I am. Take it or leave it. I can see that we are going to butt heads quite often.

My man and I went and sat off to ourselves so that we could talk. She came right over and tried to get in on the conversation and we just stopped talking. She got upset because we didn't allow her to get in on it. She gave us the dirtiest look and walked away. This woman has some serious control issues. I am strong willed, and stubborn at times, so we might not get along AT ALL. I hate to go into a marriage disliking my mother-in-law but she needs to back off.

My mother and I went shopping Monday afternoon, and she came by my house for a little while afterwards. My man's mother called while my mom was there, and she brought her behind to my house. She had the most disturbed look on her face when she saw how much fun we were all having, laughing and talking to my mom. My mom and I are very close and I think she is looking for that type of relationship with me. I don't want that. I already have one mother. She turned around and left as quickly as she came.

I am to the point now where I won't even eat at her house. It's sad but I don't trust her at all. It's just something about her. She's a perfectionist and she wants everyone around her to fit into her perfect world. It's not going to happen. I don't fit in any puzzle. I am me and that's all I can be. I refuse to conform to make someone else happy.

I don't know what's wrong with this woman, but believe me, I have my eyes wide open. I try to stay one step ahead of her.

Have you ever had someone in your life that makes you feel strange? Like they have ulterior motives?