LUVIN ME

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Friday, July 28, 2006

Ne Me Quitte Pas...

Do not leave me....

What is wrong with being alone? Why do people have such a huge problem with being by themselves? I am in a relationship now, but I was by myself for a long time before I chose to be with someone else.

Some people will go through hell just to have someone. Why do you think that is?

I would rather be by myself and happy, than to be with someone who makes me miserable.

This post was inspired by my friend who lives with his girlfriend and has a boy toy on the side. They are still playing the same crazy game. I saw him yesterday afternoon with his boy toy. He later came by my house with his girlfriend. The crazy thing is, they both know that the other exists...They both want him and would rather co-exist with the other lover than to let him go...That is so crazy to me...Oh well, his decisions, his drama...

Have a great weekend everyone!

posted by LUVIN ME @ 7:01 AM  

18 Comments:

  • At 7:40 AM, Blogger TTD said…

    WOW! I cant believe they are both still willing to keep him even though he's cheating on them! and they know!!

    i can be by myself... easily if i had to.. when you try to force a relationship due to fear of being alone... it never works out

     

  • At 8:17 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @ttd...I thought they would both be gone by now...

     

  • At 10:21 AM, Blogger @GaryTylone said…

    What ????? Still ????

    I've been by myself for two years and it is what it is...I guess that old ideal of " The Old Maid" is what people are afraid of...

     

  • At 10:32 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @valentino...I have been on both sides...happy in a relationship and happy being single...so I could handle being alone...

     

  • At 10:48 AM, Blogger Freaky Deaky said…

    The fact that this triangle is still continuing doesn't really surprise me as much as I thought it would.

    I think some people just don't think they can be happy by themselves. If you have enough drama and chaos in your life long enough it becomes normal and people acclimate to it. I think some people may find that exciting. Why? I don't have a clue.

     

  • At 11:22 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @Freaky...Drama=exciting...That's nuts but I know exactly what you mean.

    @baby o...Low self -esteem is dangerous for sure...

     

  • At 11:30 AM, Blogger Emotionalbrotha said…

    Hmm.. interesting post.

    I for one, don't like being alone, but I am.. and I'm learning that that is ok.. I mean after all I feel alone regardless when I'm with someone and when I'm not so what's the difference.

    At any rate, on one hand, one may say self esteem and I think to some point self esteem plays it's role.

    On the other hand, and in this case because both people "know" I really don't see what the big deal is about.. they are all living in their big ball of confusion and honestly unless their secretly complaining about their positions well I guess we should just let them be..

    Might not be for us, or even about us.. but if they are happy.. (even in their misery) well i say rock on wit ur bad self..

     

  • At 11:35 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @emotionalbrotha...It would be a lot easier if their dysfunction didn't come through my door...I have to love my friend from a distance because of the life he chooses to lead, and it's bad but necessary for me to maintain my composure.

    I stay out of it as much as possible, but when he comes around, I have to tell him how I feel. I wouldn't be his friend if I didn't.

     

  • At 2:21 PM, Blogger Ladynay said…

    Being single for an extended period of time kinda sucks. Somethings a companion can provide can't be replaced by something else.

    Now with all that being said...your boy's toy and his girlfriend ARE OUT OF THEIR MINDS!!!!!!! Is the loving that good to be a side dish? I mean really???

     

  • At 2:26 PM, Blogger Nika Laqui said…

    Thats scary considering the AIDS epidemic....well at least he's honest and she has the choice to deal with it or not, most men won't even give you that...

    I'd rather be alone, than miserable anyday. Sometimes its not your time to be involved, I believe if you are alone, its a time to work on self. There's nothing worse than entering a relationship when you are not whole yourself.

     

  • At 2:58 PM, Blogger Waddie G. said…

    if I am reading this right, the girl doesn't mind that he's bisexual??? I wonder if she would react if she knew that there is another woman.

     

  • At 2:58 PM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @ladynay...It must be...

    @nsane...I can't make sense of teh situation to save my life, but I guess it's not meant for me to figure it out.

     

  • At 3:01 PM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @professor...You read it right....

     

  • At 10:20 AM, Blogger fuzzy said…

    I have a friend of a friend who is in a similiar situation. I don't know how it happens and why it continues to happen

     

  • At 12:54 PM, Blogger Emotionalbrotha said…

    Wow! Didn't know it was like that-
    Yeah love from a distance would be the right thing in this situation. cause he bringing all that drama through ur front door and sitting at your dining room table and noone likes indigestion.

     

  • At 6:48 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @fuzzy...I would hate to ahve me heart twisted up in something like this...

    @emotional brotha...exactly.

     

  • At 12:41 PM, Blogger Omar Ramon said…

    My best friend is in the same situation!!HE is the boy toy and the situation is getting more and more tense. Hopefully he'll grow into the strength to be alone and get out of that mess.

    look at you with the french. I didn't know you speak! So do I!!
    Quelle bon suprise, n'est-ce Pas?! (I'm maaaad rusty tho, LOL)

     

  • At 12:47 PM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @omar...Yes it is a surprise...I didn't know you spoke either. If you check out my very first post you'll see...I was born to French speaking Creole parents...

     

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