You Can Never Be Too Safe

Although my man and I are in a monogamous relationship now, it hasn't always been that way. We have been messing around for a couple of years now...doing the sex thing. It was on a call me when you need it type basis. But we decided to try our hand at the relationship, after years of head board bangin', and it worked out better that we both imagined. In that time, although we've trusted each other, we would get tested every six months. We didn't want any 'heat of the moment" slip ups.

So for the last time before we are married, we got tested. I am pleased to report that we are both NEGATIVE! I got my results yesterday. Whew. My girls thought I was crazy to insist on us doing it. Crazy or not...I'm alive! After what happened to my friend who is pregnant and contracted herpes from her cheating husband, I'm not taking any chances. I also have a friend who is afraid to get tested. He says he doesn't want to know. Now that's crazy... As my grandmother used to say, " All that book sense and not a bit of good old fashioned common sense."

I have to know. It helps me sleep better at night. Some people don't know just how important it is.

This weekend, we will be celebrating with our friends...to, as they say, see what we will be missing. We will also be getting ALL of our mothers together for the first time, on Sunday afternoon... even the ones that don't live in Dallas. It took a lot of planning to pull it off. Some of my friends' mothers are a trip, FOR REAL! But, still I can't wait. My friend has put together a fabulous "Look What You Made Me Wear" Fashion Show and dinner. We gave him childhood pics of us from various ages, and he remade the outfits. My Boo had this one pic in some shorts and cowboy boots, and you know my boy took it and ran with it. We will be modeling them for our mothers ( including families anf friends). Give that boy some fabric and a sewing machine, and he will blow you away! I can't wait to see how it turns out. I know we will be laughing for days.

I am sick of people asking me questions about the wedding. All the details! I don't know! I am not the typical southern belle, who dreams of having a big wedding. I really don't even want a wedding. I would be satisfied with a nice ceremony, with my family and closest friends, and taking a trip somewhere. But both of our mothers are off the chain with the details. I have barely been engaged for a week...Dang! We are strongly thinking about pulling a Martin and Gina (the Martin Lawrence fans know what I mean). We would only take my daughter, my brother, Softspoken and his beau, and my Boo's best friend and his girl. Then let my daughter fly back with my brother while we honeymoon. Our parents would be SOOO upset, but they are already driving us to that point, and we have no clue when we are going to get married! When I say, I don't know what colors I want, or what theme I want, they look at me like I'm crazy. Should I know what I want already? Was there some type of manual given to girls when they reached adolescence that I missed? If so, could someone please overnight me a copy?

Well...on with the questions...

Do you feel it is important to know your status? ( All of you sexually active individuals know what status I'm talking about)

Do you feel that people should be tested, even after they are in a monogamous(and I use that word cautiously) relationship, or even after they are married or committed to a partner?

For those of you that believe in marriage...What would your dream wedding be like? What colors? Feel free to email me any ideas that you may have at luv2luvme99@yahoo.com.
I will take them ALL into consideration.