LUVIN ME

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Tuesday, March 28, 2006

To Sex or Not To Sex...

I feel that sex is a natural thing...

Yesterday, my friends and I discussed the importance of sex in our lives. Is it a need or a want? Can you live without it? What if you lost the ability to enjoy it...Would you still desire it?

Could you be celibate, and not stray from your course of action, even if the right person came along and swept you off your feet? Do you believe in no sex before marriage?

Personally, I have always been open sexually. I enjoy it...Therefore I do it. I can't justify my acts religiously, but as my mother says...That is "my cross to bear". Now, since I have been in love, intimacy is very important. To me, it makes the experience so much better when two people love each other. You are both so willing to please the other person, that you go to extra lengths to make them happy, and the experience is a reflection of your actions.

Whew...Enough sex talk. My man might have to stop by for breakfast if I don't cut this post short... (Dialing his number right now...Hanging up...He has a very important proposal meeting this morning, so I won't distract him...)....So in the words of Flo Evans...D*** D*** D***( I'm trying not to curse so much)!


To sex or not to sex, that is the question. What are your thoughts?

I know there are a lot of questions, and you don't have to answer them all...I was just putting them out there.

posted by LUVIN ME @ 6:39 AM  

28 Comments:

  • At 8:15 AM, Blogger Ladynay said…

    Is it a need or a want? Want unless your trying to have a child, then you need to have sex with something or someone

    Can you live without it? Personally, not for too long

    What if you lost the ability to enjoy it...Would you still desire it? I would think not because I wouldn't enjoy it.

    Could you be celibate, and not stray from your course of action, even if the right person came along and swept you off your feet? Do you believe in no sex before marriage? Now that I have been exposed to sex, I don't think I could go celibate if the right man was to come along. I used to believe in no sex before marriage...then I lost my virginity! LOL

     

  • At 8:20 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    LOL@ ladynay

     

  • At 8:36 AM, Blogger Ms.Honey said…

    Hmm..I would have to say that when I'm with someone I want and need that connect that sex provides..if I'm dating then I can generally go without it, of course when I finally get some I might go a lil over board LOL

     

  • At 9:27 AM, Blogger chele said…

    It's a physical need. Almost like eating. I mean, I wouldn't die without it but it would be rough. I've considered celibacy on several occasions -- usually when a relationship has gone bad -- but have never been able to follow through. I do believe that sex is always better when it is shared with someone that you really love. Someone that you share an emotional connection to.

     

  • At 9:34 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    At this point, for me, it's a need. I've gotten so used to it, that I think I may go through withdrawal without it...LOL

     

  • At 10:13 AM, Blogger TTD said…

    to sex!! sex is great!! it's not a need.. but it's a really big want... i agree that intimacy & love makes the experience so much better, than just casual sex

     

  • At 10:13 AM, Blogger TTD said…

    & no.. i couldnt be celibate

     

  • At 10:28 AM, Blogger Msnhim said…

    I love sex and all that it entails but I can go for long periods of time without it. Fortunately having a husband means I don't have to! LOL

     

  • At 10:41 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @ttd...I can't either.

    @msnhim...Spoken just like a woman with sex right at her fingertips! LOL...yep, it's a good thing!

     

  • At 11:23 AM, Blogger NegroPino™ said…

    If im in a relationship with somebody, its a part of it, When im on the "scene" I can't get intimate with somebody who Im not attracted to like that. SEx is very emotional for me. Its even better when its with 2 ppl taht ENJOY each other. If i had to chose between doing it to do it, or waiting to have it with somebody whom i know it would be earth shattering, I would WAIT.

     

  • At 11:32 AM, Blogger princessdominique said…

    I think its the natural benefit and course of action in a loving and intimate relationship so its a need. A requirement for the two people to be connected on another level beyond just the emotional part of the relationship.

     

  • At 12:04 PM, Blogger feels good b n FREE said…

    hahaha...this was cute and kinda funny.

    I have a lot of opinions.
    Ideally, celibacy would be an option.
    In fact, for me it's easy to remain celibate...until I'm in a commited relationhip.

    It's then that I desire the intimacy that sex brings. I've had my share of "casual" sex...but I' not beat for that any more!

    I believe in no sex before marriage, but I also believe that once that door is opened it's just about impossible to close it.

     

  • At 12:07 PM, Blogger Freaky Deaky said…

    Can I live without sex? Probably, more than likely. Would I want to live without sex? That's a definite no.

    It's almost always better if you care about the person you're with but when I'm between relationships I don't usually have a problem with a meaningless romp or two.

     

  • At 2:08 PM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @Ms.newbooty...Earth-shattering...I like that terminology.

    @princess...It does take the relationship to a new level...

    @Freaky... I don't want to live without it either.

     

  • At 2:08 PM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @diamond...yep...Once you open the flood gates then look out!

     

  • At 8:03 PM, Blogger Stone said…

    That is a tuff one cause I really enjoy masturbation having sex with someone is good but i really do enjoy self pleasure. I think I would be mood if i could not get it out no pun intended

     

  • At 9:20 PM, Blogger Superstar Nic said…

    To sex definitely!

    I would be definitely devasted if I ever lost the ability to ejoy it.

    I enjoy it and I am a not ashamed of it at all. I hope wanted to talk about something similar to this to. I hope that you do not mind if I borrow from your post. I will be sure to give you the credit!

     

  • At 6:53 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @robert mack...A lot to offer...hmmm...I'll leave that to my imagination.

    @stone...Many people lack the ability to please themselves totally, but since you've got the gift, I say use it. It's the safest sex you can have...

    @NIC...Take it away!

     

  • At 10:25 AM, Blogger Paula D. said…

    @ what freaky said: Can I live without sex? Probably, more than likely. Would I want to live without sex? That's a definite no.

    It has been a long time for me & I know that I will definitely want to when I meet the next 'right' person.

     

  • At 12:53 PM, Blogger nikki said…

    i.love.sex.

    but if it's not working in the current situation, i won't do it (and haven't, unfortunately).

    in the meanwhile, i'm addicted to it if it's good sex and the brotha has my undivided mental attention.

     

  • At 12:55 PM, Blogger All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said…

    i got to have it. nothing like messaging my partners back from inside her body

     

  • At 1:39 PM, Blogger Waddie G. said…

    Did you read my post about my sex buddy? Well, I'm thru with him anyways...so for me, it's not to sex even tho I love sex.

     

  • At 1:49 PM, Blogger ~HoustonNY~ said…

    Luvin, I am the WRONG person to ask this question to! I have been self-celebate for almost two years now. I could have made the jump, but I chose not to. I don't do casual sex at all. What turns me on about the person is not only physical, but what I know about them. That intimacy is what takes sex to a whole different level. So I agree with STONE, I just use self gratification for now....

     

  • At 6:17 PM, Blogger SilkySmooth said…

    Definitely to SEX. Sex is a need and a want for me. I need to do it, because I want to do it. No matter what I am dealing with or going through I need and want to have sex.

     

  • At 7:59 PM, Blogger Superstar Nic said…

    Okay yesterday when I read your post, I was going to talk about something similar and now I cannot even remember what I was going to write about! LOL

    Let me read your again to refresh my memory (smile).

     

  • At 6:45 AM, Blogger LUVIN ME said…

    @paula...I don't want to live without it either!

    @nikki...Thanks for stopping by!

    @torrance...Oh my!

    @Baby o...Umph, Umph, Umph

    @Professor..no, I'll have to go check that out...

    @terrance...What? 2 years...Talk about will power!

    @silky...I feel you!

    @Nic....LOL

     

  • At 4:34 AM, Blogger Abeni said…

    Yup its natural.Its a need when you are in a relationship with some one you really love and who loves you back.

    Can live with it if am not involved because I can't do the casual sex bit.

    Once the right person comes along-there goes celibacy.

    If you can wait until marriage its fine but most of us don't.SO yes I believe but its also unrealistic

     

  • At 1:11 PM, Blogger Me, Myself, and I said…

    Sex is a want, not a need. I may want it, but that doesn't mean I need to have it. Need to me is something you can't live without.
    Can I live without it? Yeah
    I'd still desire it if I lost the ability to enjoy it, though.
    I could be celibate if the right person comes along and sweeps me off my feet, but it would definitely be a challenge. Do I believe in no sex before marriage? Yeah, if that's what you want to do, but that doesn't apply to me.

     

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