Keeping My Distance...

At first I thought I was just being petty. Then I thought I was plain paranoid. Now I know that I'm not crazy. She is jealous, and I had to tell her how I felt.

It started as soon as her husband moved back in. She called me everyday with something different. I, along with my other friends tried to warn her that getting back with her husband was a BIG mistake. She said that her child needed her father in the house with her and she wasn't about to let another woman have her husband. I told her if he is with another woman, then you're you're sharing him anyway. But I guess she works on her own system of logic because to me, it makes no sense.

She can't trust him, never could. The only difference is now they have a child involved in the whole situation. She is a good person, but lately, I can't stand to be around her for more than 30 minutes at a time because she starts to talk about him. I just change the subject because the I told you so song has lost its tune.

For the most part, she complains about what MY man does and compares it to her situation, which is crazy to me...For instance, she called me a few days ago and my man was out having a drink with his brothers. She kept saying things like, "Mr Perfect isn't as perfect as you think. What if he's out there with someone else."

I just let her know that I don't sit around and wonder what my man is doing every second. It would drive me crazy. I trust him. He has never given me a reason not to. If he chooses to do something wrong, that will be on HIS conscience, not mine. As long as I take care of me and do what I need to do for myself, things will be okay. I can't live for him or make him do anything. He acts right because he wants to. I don't bribe him or twist his arm.

For some reason that just added fuel to the fire. She said, "He's gonna cheat on you one day just like my husband cheated on me. Just wait."

This has been an ongoing thing the past couple of weeks. I am starting to realize just how insecure she is. But, I can't let her insecurities ruin my life. She is my friend, but before I allow her to poison my household, I will keep her at a distance. This is one of the reason I don't have a lot of female friends. So far, jealousy has been the number on reason that I have to cut them off. I don't have a lot, I just work well with what I have. I will give my friends anything that they need if I have it.

I had to tell her last night, "Just because you're unhappy...Don't try to steal my joy!"


Have you ever had a jealous friend that you cared about, but eventually had to cut off?