Girl, Sit Your Hot A** Down!

My best friend has a small problem that he told me about a few days ago....There is a young lady in his office that is infatuated with him. She is a secretary for him and two other guys. He says that she makes subtle gestures, and she always takes a little extra time with the things he asks her to do. She has worked for him for a few months now, and lately she has been a little over the top. He appreciates her efforts, but he doesn't know what her motive is.

Softspoken is a very nice person. He treats everyone with respect, and he doesn't like to hurt people's feelings if he can help it. He says that her blouses have been getting lower and her skirts have been getting shorter. She makes an effort to be seen but he says, she does absolutely nothing for him. He said that his colleges are always talking about her because she is very attractive, but he never really comments. They all notice the way that she is around him...If it were one of them, they would have been on her months ago. He is a gentleman and I think that's what she likes.

The fact is, no one at his job knows that he's gay. He says that he's not ashamed, he has just chosen to keep his business and personal life separate. He doesn't know what to do in this situation, so he called me...Normally it's the other way around.

He has worked hard to get to this new job...So I told him, "if telling her you're gay will in anyway affect you at work, other than having a disappointed secretary, then keep it to yourself and tell her you're not interested. If she can't handle rejection and starts a problem for you at work, then find a new secretary." That's all I have...

Any suggestions?

Why do some people work so hard to be seen by others? I never go after guys, even if I think they are attractive...I like the chase....I like for them to come to me.