Over-Protective or Not?

My friend called on Saturday from an anonymous number. She told me that she was okay, and I told her that I had let her mother know what was going on. She said she would call her mom to let her know that she was okay. She told me that she might be moving in the near future. She said that this town is not big enough for the both of them . She cannot fathom the thought of seeing him with his kid. I wanted to let her know at that point that it was two kids instead of one, but I would be doing that coward a favor, I'll let him tell her. She really wouldn't give me any details on her whereabouts. She just told me that she was out of town clearing her head, and she was okay. At this point, that was enough for me. At least I know she is alive, and okay, physically. Thanks for sending all those prayers up for my girl!

I decided that I wouldn't post about the Oscar's because I know there will be a S***load of posts about them but I do have to say one things. Was it me or did every WP in the building stop breathing when 3-6 Mafia took the stage. That was a signature Oscar moment. Now you know Kanye was somewhere about to s*** a brick because someone beat him to the punch!

I spent the weekend with my man and my daughter. We did the 'family thing' all weekend. It is really hard for me to allow a man to get close to my little girl. It's not that I don't trust him, because I do. I just have to be extra cautious, because if anything happened to my daughter and it MY fault, I would not be able to live with myself.

I had never told him how I feel about this situation. The only men I feel comfortable about leaving my daughter alone with are my brother(he used to keep my bad a** when we were growing up), My dad( my mom is normally always there, but I still trust him), and her father. Other than that. She is either with one of my grannies or with me. I think he sensed my uneasiness on Sunday afternoon. My family had dinner at my house this week, and my mom asked him to go to the store around the corner. My daughter ran in an said, "I want to go", and he said, "okay, come one." I immediately looked at her and said "No!". She gave me this puzzled look and walked out of the room disappointed. He gave me that "we need to talk" look and left for the store.

When he came back from the store, he took me into my bedroom to talk. I could tell that he was upset. He wanted to know why I had embarrassed him in front of my family. I told him that I was truly sorry if I had embarrassed him, but I am very cautious of my daughter. He really looked hurt when I tried to explain it to him, and I could tell he didn't understand. How can I explain it to him in a way that he would understand? It's not my distrust for him that makes me over-protective of my child. It's my insecurity with the world around me that makes me react in the way I do. I would expect her father to react in the same manner if someone wanted to take my daughter without him around. How would you handle this situation if a child that you loved and you were responsible for was involved. I know it was only around the corner, but if I let her go this time, then she will expect to go all the time.

I explained the situation to my daughter when she was going to bed last night. I told her that no matter what, she is never to go with anyone alone unless it was someone in her close family that I named above. She understood.

He spent the night with us last night, and I could tell that he was still not satisfied with the answer that I gave him. Maybe he will understand when he has a child of his own...Even though he is upset, I still feel I made the right decision.

What are your thoughts?